As soldiers of life, we live and die in a continuous struggle to discover our true identities and take our special ranks that God created us for. From the moment we are born till the moment we did, there is no moment to waste and we need to keep energizing ourselves to reach our goals.

These goals are set according to the stage that we are in, and the effort should be compatible with the goal in order to overcome hurdles and obstacles to reach there safely and victoriously.

From the early childhood days, the goals kept evolving as we grew older; first it was to raise our heads from the lying position, then to crawl, and after that to walk, and then run, etc. We fell and hurt ourselves many times but this never stopped us from trying to achieve the goal set for us.

As we gained more physical ability; we started to gain mental power to differentiate between good things and bad things, and we knew what goes with our surroundings and what does not. We knew what is acceptable and what is rejected, and our inner feelings and intuition always aided us to make the right choice.

As we grew older; we started to recognize new things in ourselves; feelings and emotions. These new motivators pushed us toward certain things or people and alienated us from others. We learned how to love and how to hate, and between love and hate; we learned how to be jealous, bitter, giving, forgiving, forgetting, sacrificing, etc.

We learned that in order to keep and nurture what we want and love; we need to fight for it, and make sure that no one else comes along and snatches it from us; so we were introduced to a new concept and that is to fight people like us to stop them from threatening our peace that we have struggled and worked so hard to achieve.

The problem with all this is when these feelings begin to mix and confuse us, and sometimes we reach a point where we are committing the act for the sake of doing so and not because there is a real need for it. The real danger is when this act becomes a habit and a second nature to us and we can no longer choose to do it or not do it, because we let it take over our judgment and shut the sound of reason.

It is quite understood when you are fighting for what is rightfully yours and for your inner and outer peace, but you have to be very careful as to whom you are fighting. Sometimes; we alienate close people because our judgment has been shadowed by the nature that we have unconsciously adopted along the years.

Some people adore the role of the victim in their lives and those of their beloved family members, and they become experts in the blame game. They blame everything and everyone in their live for their bad luck and misfortune. These people are the worst abusers of others affection and love; they turn life into a battlefield that never has a truce. There is always someone out there to get them, people around them don’t love them, or they are just jealous and that’s why they keep trying to trap them and drive them into trouble. Nothing is ever enough with this type and no matter what you do, you will always miss something and you never get it right.

These people start fighting everyone around them, even those who are trying to help them, and the funny thing is that I realized that those people who like victimizing themselves over and over; are the most selfish type out there because they always crave being the center of attention even if this means subjecting themselves to everyone’s pity.

You can recognize this type when you see them always complaining, always have something to bitch about, all the random events in their surroundings were meant for them and against them. They never take responsibility for their actions because according to them; they have always been forced to do everything. They adopt this “poor me” attitude and expect you to buy it and act on it; you have to show your support and direct involvement; otherwise; you will be accused of not loving them and for working against them.

To these people I say: you are fighting at the wrong front and no one will lose in the end but yourselves. People around you can tolerate and take your attitude for a certain period of time and then they are just fed up, and instead of pulling them closer by making them feel sorry for you; you drive them further away by doing so, and you will reach a point where you find yourself fighting alone at your front and the whole world had abandoned you and this time it is for real.

To the person who inspired this post and you should know yourself very well; change your attitude while we are still on your side; if you continue to victimize yourself like you always do and fight us because of demons living inside your head; you will wake up one day to realize that our ship has sailed and left you behind and there is no way that we will go back and subject ourselves to your continuous abuse. Wake up before it’s too late!!

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