Last night, I had a call from one of my best friends, in fact; she is my best friend and we go back a very long time. Not only she is my cousin, but she is my childhood companion and the only one I could and still can talk to without having to be careful about what comes out of my mouth.

No matter how long we stay away from each other and no matter how far our meetings are; when we do meet, it is like we have been together only yesterday. There would be no place for making each other feel bad because we don’t see each other that often like before; it is about making use of the current time and enjoying the moment while it lasts.

Once I read that your best friend is the one that you sit with for hours saying nothing and then walking away feeling that you just had the best conversation in your life. This is exactly how I feel about her; sure we had our ups and downs and we had our conflicts and fights but the only thing that these incidents left in our minds is the memory of how we made up each and every time and how we got back stronger than before.

Many people tried to come between us and break us apart but they could not; they used to build wedges by gossiping and making up stories to drift us away from each other but we always found our way back, and that is to each other.

She called me last night because she had read my last article “Disappointment” and she was stuck with one idea; could I be talking about my relationship with her? Could it be that I feel that we don’t see each other that often because I believe that she does not need me anymore and that’s why she is not in touch? My article brought many questions to her mind, but she did not keep those questions to herself and start to pile assumptions and realizations on them; instead; she made use of our transparent relationship and called me to talk about it.

I would like to thank her deeply for doing so because I realize now that many people from those who read the article might have gotten out with the same result, but the casualty of our relationships did not urge them to come to me directly and clarify the whole thing and that is why I am writing these lines.

Sometimes you go through an incident that makes you want to talk and shout your frustration to the whole world; blogs have made that easier for us because they are one of the venting methods one can use to release some of the frustration and bitterness. However; when you blog with your own identity and your blog is somewhat popular and read by most; it makes it very difficult to blog about certain things and makes it even impossible to explicitly talk about certain issues, so what is one to do in this case?

The only way out is to make the topic as general as possible to get the idea out there without making any hints to the individuals who triggered the whole thing, and you hope that they will get the idea without you having to put the word out there for everyone to see.

Some of you might wonder; if you are brave enough to post with your real identity, what are the issues that you cannot or will not talk about? And why would you even care?

I will tell you why.

We are parts of bigger groups or entities or communities … etc. and when you are recognized as part of such backgrounds, you are obliged to maintain their images in front of the public and you cannot defame them on your blog or anyone else’s. Without clarifying further; sometimes you are forced to use metaphors or general ideas to get your conviction out there and it is up to readers to get the idea or brush it off.

To my best friend who has made up my day yesterday and brought tears to my eyes when she said that we will always be best friends, to her; you are my soul mate and you are the only one in the world that I can turn to and pour my heart out without any fears of being judged. You keep my secret and you share my happiness and sorrow; I will always be there for you no matter where I was.

I love you!

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