I think we all remember the great movie “What Women Want”, we all laughed that the guy had to be hit by lightening to understand what women really want. It was a blessing and a curse at the same time for him to be able to read women’s minds and it was a rough journey for him and the women in his life.

This kind of movie makes you think and wonder that we do not really speak the same language. I read something about this in John Gray’s book and I am convinced that there are many missing links in our communication, i.e. between men and women.

Many thoughts come to my mind; what do men really want? When it comes to picking their life partners, exactly how do they do it? Is it a list that they have in their minds and they go for the highest percentage? Is it that they look for one that has better genes? Is it that they look for a soul mate? What is it exactly?

I posted many times about traditional marriages and how men pick their wives from catalogues; this is what I call the interview based marriage. If you have a vacancy at a company; you do more than 3 or 4 interviews before you decide that this is the right one for the job, bare in mind that this is completely reversible as you have probation periods and lots of deliverables; you check competencies and qualifications and you can actually do a reference check where previous employers would share their experience with that person with you.

When it comes to marriage; you have only one chance to make it, you don’t get to check any references and you do not know any method to check the qualifications and competencies if you want to put it that way.

In this time and age; what makes men think that interview marriages really work? Why do they believe that it is ok to leave your girlfriend of many years and just go for a new package right from the source? What is it that makes men not commit to the person who accepted them as they are and gave them the opportunity to explore and find out anything that can be found out about them?

This kind of behavior made me very cautious about dating or accepting a boyfriend; because I suspect that they are not serious. All girls want to settle down with someone they love; that’s why they do take the risk in dating and going out or seeing someone as a boyfriend. The question is; are men in this just for the fun of it? And when they are serious about marriage, they ignore the one that invested in them and go plant their seeds in new grounds?

I would like to get men’s perspective on this, help us understand you better, help us reach a common understanding, what is it that you really want?