Arab men, most of them, dont seem to like it, but they only have themselves to blame. Talk to Arab women and you’ll hear the same refrain over and over again. And it just isnt about Arab men born in the Middle East, the same stories and ideas go hand in hand with Arab men born and raised here in the West.

It is a cultural issue and a cultural problem. Instead of saying “this happens everywhere” why not do something to change the facts? Yes, some of this stuff does happen everywhere, but I dont think it is as common, or often as severe.

As to the comments about weight affecting the ability to get married, how many would make the same comments about a man and his weight? I have spent a lot of time in the Middle East and weight was never seen as a block to a man getting married, neither was previous children or previous marriage.

It is these clear and open double standards that cause these issues. If you guys dont address it things will only get worse. I have gotten scores of e-mails from Arab women asking “do you know any other white converts who want to marry”? If the families would accept it the numbers would be even higher.

You guys are loosing some great women and dont even realise it.

This is just my opinion,and not necessarily the truth, doubt is the only truth (another opinion),anyway, after reading through the post and the comments,I noticed that we just need to learn how to disagree,respectful disagreement.
secondly,I always like to see men and women as humans, with all the differences they have,they still are affected by culture, or the way they are brought,or by the personal traits,or characteristics.
so any human (man or woman) can be selfish, unfair,cruel,etc.,but I still don’t deny that men in our societies get affected by the current culture, or traditions,and that is mostly what shapes how they think for feel,I dont say that women don’t get affected by this culture,but as we analyze we see that the culture in our societies is in favore of men in one way or another.
I’m man myself, and I myself get surprised how men think, it happens to me that when I tell my friends how i like to be with my future wife,they advise not to be that, because if i do that, she (they mean my wife) would control me, or something else, they don’t know (not all of them) the concept of sharing, of being fair, and wise.
what im saying is that i think our culture needs restudying, and for all of us to accept what is good, and refuse what is bad, men and women we are what we think.
with all respect to all opinions, or beliefs.

God bless all

they got married coz the marriage idea itself (marriage) but the right and whats the perfect is to get marry to someone he/she makes you think in marriage)
باللغة العربية الفصحة، لا تتزوج عشان فكرة الزواج انو لازم تتزوج ، بل اتزوج عشان الشخص ، عشان بدك تقضي حياتك معاه طول العمر عشانو انت بدك تتجوز.

dont know if u get this