Flu, holiday and bad news!!
It seems that I caught a bad flu the first couple of days from this long Eid holiday and I have been suffering since. Even if you were in a good mood, fever, sneezing and coughing guarantee that for you, so you can imagine how this holiday was so far.
Adding to flu severe symptoms, I have had more than my fair share of bad news, things that you never expect to hear or witness, yet; you see them happening and watch with astonishment and sadness; a question hangs over your head: how could this happen and how would people be so clueless and cruel?
It makes me feel depressed when I see men in our society do the same mistake again and again; they leave the most important decision in their life for others to make for them, then after a short while, they start complaining about it, and the result is more broken homes, more divorced wives and more kids getting lost between their estranged parents. What makes the situation even worse is that they don’t listen to advice and go ahead with what others planned for them; it is like they do not want to claim responsibility for failure when it happens or find themselves excuses to justify their actions later.
Getting married has become casual for a large part of the community, men and women get married at an earlier age, their parents pay for everything, they even choose for them; the man’s family chooses his bride and the woman’s family accept the proposal of the highest bidder, then they cover the expenses. The end result is a couple of strangers living under the same roof and governed by a contract called marriage, they do not understand or appreciate the value of this holy commitment and end up underestimating the consequences of their actions, hence; divorce becomes easier and lighter.
Infidelity is becoming a major problem in our community as well; I am hearing stories from all sources that the concept is more common than we would like to accept or believe. I think everyone will agree that this is not a good sign, especially when we consider all the negative consequences of such actions.
Not discussing this further; I was really looking forward to this vacation, only to be disappointed with coming down with the flu and hearing bad news that drained all my positive energy and left me weak and gloomy!!
October 28th, 2006 at 3:32 pm
Khalidah, I worte a long reply and all I got was an error msg! I didn’t get that verification code
October 28th, 2006 at 3:37 pm
I’ll try to rewrite it, I was aying that I hearyou very well,people seem be underestimating marriage as a prospective life-long commitment inwhich mistakes are long regretted. It’s not only about a wedding and enjoying some days of courtship… It’s a very seriuos matter that seems to be taken for granted these days. Another thing, I personally think that there is a big difference between someone who is good or even perfec, and someone who is suitable… Therefore, the choice should be yours, others can only offer advice, but not make a choice for you!
October 28th, 2006 at 8:46 pm
inshallah kol eshe ben7al ya Khalidah.
as for getting flue, same here.. I even too injections 2-3 days before Eid to stop ther sickness of my flu
October 29th, 2006 at 3:01 am
slamtek… we had the same thing me Joon and my wife spent Eid with flu
October 29th, 2006 at 3:04 am
من علامات الساعة ان يكثر الطلاق…
October 29th, 2006 at 3:36 am
Allah yiselmik. I hope you’re feeling better (physically) soon. As for the sickness in our societies, it only seems to go from bad to worse. I am afraid it’s a consequence of rejecting God’s good and perfect will for us, and trying to come up with “improvements” or our own.
October 29th, 2006 at 8:10 am
you are always on time even with your posts !
“a question hangs over your head: how could this happen and how would people be so clueless and cruel?” I really dont know!
“they leave the most important decision in their life for others to make for them” you are very right!
October 29th, 2006 at 8:31 am
first kol 3am u enti b’7air
.. we or they cant change our nature in many things…
and about what you said sweety smile you are in world . this is people and this is human
they just run away , and they do think its a solution but its not, it makes the situatin or problem big and bigger…
god bless you
October 29th, 2006 at 9:41 am
Khalidah, I hope you feel better in soul and body soon. Did you see my missed call a couple days ago? Someone was thinking of you!
Heavy sigh on the marriage thing. I’m so glad you didn’t stuck in one of those marriages you describe.
(Off topic…but I loved Sand Monkey’s description of you!)