How to lose a girl in a second?
I guess that we have all either heard of or watched the movie “How to lose a guy in 10 days”. I have to say that this was one of the movies that I really enjoyed and I could watch it over and over without getting bored.
Basically; it is a bet where the star wants to prove to her friends that she can lose a guy in 10 days just by doing all the girly things that we tend to do when we are emotionally involved. I guess we all know what these little annoying things are, calling too much, being over possessive and trying to keep him away from his friends, and the most important annoying thing is that we have high hopes and start building on them which puts stress and pressure on the poor guy!
They never see these as signs of love and affection; rather they feel that they are like restraints and tactics a woman performs to limit their freedom and tricks them into marriage, therefore; they run away
If you perform all these things in a short time like the star of the movie did; the inevitable result would be that you will lose the guy and maybe forever, not like the actor who got back to her and understood that all these things are signs of affection
We have heard it many times; that men go after the woman who ignores them and ignore the one who shows affection. Maybe this is true or let’s says that so far; it is proving to be valid and true, which makes dealing with men a very difficult confusing task, and if you ask them directly what they want, more often than not; they will not even have an answer because they themselves have no idea.
It takes a second of hesitation on the man’s side to lose a woman that might have been the woman of his dreams, and the sad thing is that they don’t even realize it until it is too late and there is no way back, so this gets me really confused because it seems that the best way to keep a guy is ignoring him … very funny ha?
P.S. This was a crazy thought resulting from watching too many unnecessary Arabic series and listening to friends venting!!
December 13th, 2006 at 4:27 pm
Depressing…
Maybe the message is that both men and women have to be laid-back and independent, but not in a way that upsets the other person? Should be engaged in leading his/her own life without blocking the other person out too much.
Signals can be wrong and confusing, though – and someone might not continue a certain pattern of behaviour forever – it could just be due to the novelty of the new relationship.
December 13th, 2006 at 4:48 pm
What is more confusing is that fact that guys do not appreciate honesty and straightforwardness, it freaks the hell out of them even if they seemed to value and honor it at first. In reality, they want mystery, games and the crap they always complain about .
December 13th, 2006 at 11:20 pm
I hate playing hard to get … It’s VERY immature, a complete waste of time not to mention so silly and extremely boring!
December 14th, 2006 at 12:31 am
Khalidah, GREAT TO SEE YOU POSTING!!
I”m so glad my hubby wasn”t this kind of guy!
December 14th, 2006 at 2:23 am
I love what Iman just said, I think it’s the right thing to do.
Shaden I don’t think guys are afraid of honesty and straightforwardness, it’s the other way around with all due respect.
And I agree with Diddums on being clear in the signals, because it does tend to be confusing to men who are usually … well have more proof based minds
Now to Khalida,
The story of the movie is a little bit different, where the lady gets in a challenge with her editor to write that article, while the guy gets in a Bet with the guys that he can get her to love him. those are the only two things that got them to stay the 10 days, together despite her trying so hard to push him away … anyway … I like that movie. But it doesn’t take into account TRUE love, if such a thing exists. In the case of true love, you will not only tolerate the other party, but you will pardon, justify and even understand the other side. And no matter what they do, they will never err. Goes for both men and women.
And now for the part that I really disagree with….
Ignoring someone as a way to get to them, is an over simplistic thought. Allow me to explain
People (not just men) go after people who they find interesting. (Pretty, smart …etc) if someone is universally interesting (known to be pretty) they would probably have the luxury of ignoring other people, and people will STILL run after them. However, if someone is uninteresting … well, people will ignore them regardless of the other side’s position interested or not.
And I will conclude with, Ignoring someone might raise the level of interest, but will certainly lower the level of respect. It’s a gamble. If someone likes someone, the best thing to do is to “hint” at it. Maybe that will help
December 14th, 2006 at 5:50 am
i read it not in mood to comment ,
just going to say : WE should be our slef and THINK Well before ACT , so NO sorry later
December 14th, 2006 at 6:52 am
“It takes a second of hesitation on the man’s side to lose a woman that might have been the woman of his dreams, and the sad thing is that they don’t even realize it until it is too late and there is no way back”
Khokha that is sooooooooo true … sooooooo true ….. sooooo true … sooooooooo true …. sooooooo true ….. sooooooo true …..
And I just want to say that any one who goes after people who ignore him/her is sick!!!
W elnas elly ma be2addro elly bain edaihom .. sick akter!
December 14th, 2006 at 7:58 am
I find myself in line with the first commentator[Diddums] on this one.7ala, it is all about chemistry, if there is chemistry then everything will be alright, if there is no chemistery, it isn’t going to be alright, ignoring and paying extra ordinary attentions are just trivial matters that will get washed away when you get down to the nuts and bolts.When the experts surveyed people who were together for 40 and 50 years about the secret of staying together for so long without getting tired of one another, they all answered in unison that “Tolerence” was the key that kept them together for so long, so if one isn’t willing to tolerate all of the derelictions of the other partner then one isn’t ready to get into any relationships.
December 14th, 2006 at 9:26 am
God made man,then said”i can do better than that”and made woman.
December 14th, 2006 at 12:31 pm
Hi khalidah
it’s either ******** or *********
December 14th, 2006 at 12:46 pm
Hi Khalidah,
couldn’t find your email on your blog.
My email is ***********
December 14th, 2006 at 3:32 pm
Hey Khalidah, Good post. I do not like to publish my email address online
Is there an email address that I can send it to you. Or can you get it through this reply. I wrote it on the mail section. Peace
December 14th, 2006 at 3:46 pm
7ala, your comment made me laugh long and hard, let me tell you out of a personal experience, of 3 weeks of hesitation, and nothing happens!
The thing is (as Hatem said also) If people love, they tolerate, better yet, they enjoy-the-suffering..
As for really knowing the value of what they have, it depends. Sometimes it’s true, and sometimes it’s not, you need to quantify it a little bit more. Personal evaluation mostly doesn’t count
Anyway … we’ll all live and learn
, but let me assure all that, your mileage WILL vary
December 14th, 2006 at 5:23 pm
khalida
my email is **********
December 15th, 2006 at 3:15 am
Diddums,
I see your point and you are right
Shaden,
Right on girl
Iman,
Exactly!!!
Kinzi,
You are lucky
Qwaider,
You are totally missing the point and that’s all what I am going to say
MQabbani,
Ya reit!!
7ala,
Akh ya 7ala … ma3lesh .. maseerha t-hoon
Hatem,
Although I agree with you .. but some guys love the game of being hard to get and getting high on the woman’s need for them and her love and emotions to feel good about themselves .. I guess that’s what 7ala meant by saying sick and sicker
Hamede,
hmmmm
Deima, Reem, Issam and Bo3Bo3
I removed the email addresses from here
Qwaider,
No comment!
December 15th, 2006 at 5:13 am
Last comment,
If a woman decides to end it because the man hesitated! Those are signs of stupidity and weakness. We all get cold feet, and women hesitate even more than men on everything
The man has the right to weigh his options and if he should pursue a specific lady or a relationship. Don’t you think? A serious decision warrants a little hesitation, and Men -only- trying to please all the time is illogical. Many would rather ignore and be gone, and no do it. Even if it meant “losing” someone who “thinks” she’s the best thing god has granted this earth
Peace…
December 15th, 2006 at 5:17 am
Qwaider,
Missing the point again and no comment again
December 15th, 2006 at 6:41 am
I talked about ignoring, you said, I missed the point, I talked about hesitation and I missed the point
Can you please enlighten me what the point you’re trying to make is?
December 15th, 2006 at 6:49 am
Qwaider …
I vented about something and I am not in the mood to get into an argument with you (as usual) and turn it into a war and man vs woman thing … so I stick to my initial comment … you missed the point and no comment
December 15th, 2006 at 8:02 am
I’m sorry to hear that Khokha, I hope all will be fine soon